Diary of a Pregnant Woman, Vol. 5

I passed my 1 hour glucose test! One less thing to worry about! My iron levels are also in the appropriate range, along with the rest of my blood levels from my 28 week CBC. So happy to hear all of this! 

Other happenings-

  • I have gained a total of 30 lbs. at just over 30 weeks, but not much in the last month. Talked with my OB and MFM about this and they assure me it is okay as long as baby boy is still growing as he should. Most of the 30 lbs. I packed on were on by week 20! Anyways, looks like Im on track to gain about 40 lbs. total. 
  • I am snoring soooo bad at night. Oink, oink. Hubby actually had to leave the room for the first time as he could not get any rest last night. Not only am I snoring, but Im like choking on my snores and waking up panicked because Im having trouble breathing. It is scary! I brought it up at my appt today because I thought I might have some weird pregnancy sleep apnea (if that even exists?). The midwife seemed to brush it off though, told me to elevate myself more, & use nasal spray before bed. I will give the elevating a try in bed, if that doesnt work, looks like Ill be headed to the recliner to sleep soon. 
  • Hubby & I have been keeping busy putting together all the stuff we were blessed with at the shower. We couldnt wait any longer to do it, we have been waiting for almost a decade now for all of this to happen! So, each day we assemble something different. Its so fun. So far we have configured the Baby Trend pack and play, Baby Trend bouncer, Fisher Price rock and play, Chicco stroller/carseat, & mamaRoo swing. We also filled the bookshelf with all the books we got at our shower. Everything fits perfectly in it. Next up is setting up the monitor we got! 


  • Our maternity photos are this weekend at the beach! Im excited to get them done but also nervous. I hope I look okay in them, hubby told me to embrace it so I am going to try and do so…Belly out & all! My mom is coming along for the pics too. I will post some of them next week! 
  • We only have 3 classes left at the hospital (2 more labor & delivery, and one CPR)…which means the homestretch of the pregnacy is upon us. In just 2 months, our rainbow will be here with us! 
  • Can I tell you how much Cobra insurance sucks?? We had to dish out 2 months worth of it until I go on hubbys insurance in January. Please tell me how one can justify paying $600 a month for an individual just to maintain their current coverage?!? Joke. Like its not bad enough already that we get NO infertility coverage here in Florida. I guess the silver lining would be I have long ago met all out of pocket deductibles for the year so no more cash upfront other than the Cobra has to be dished out. 
  • Hubby took off 2 weeks for baby’s arrival. Im looking forward to this time we will have together as a family of 3 (well, 5 if u count the furbabies) We hope to keep the amount of home visitors during this special time to a minimum. This isnt to say we dont want any visitors, we do, but we want the majority of our time at home to be spent learning the ropes and in all honesty, just taking it all in… If that makes sense.  Who knows if we will change our minds, but this is where we are right now with it. 
  • We are already planning our first family trip! Sounds sort of crazy considering baby isnt even here yet, right?! When he is about 5 months old (early June 2017), we plan to head north for our nephews high school graduation. We are so excited to see all of our family & friends & show off our little Miracle to them! As of now, we think we will be driving and staying about 2 weeks, but Im sure that could easily change due to numerous factors. 
  • I am proud of myself for getting all of our handwritten shower thank you notes done already! I just dropped them in the mail today. Can we say awesome for not even a 2 week turn around time?!? 

A Hurricane, Baby Shower, Growth Scan, & Day of RemembranceĀ 

Despite our fears of Hurricane Matthew ruining our baby shower, all turned out perfectly! We were so blessed to have just been missed (literally by about 30 miles) from the storm making landfall here in South Florida. Compared to Haiti, Northern Florida, & the Carolinas, we were spared majorly.  I think everyone here woke up feeling a sense of gratitude the day after the storm. 

This isnt to say Matthew didnt bring plenty of stress last week leading up to his arrival…we ended up having to board up our house with hurricane shutters, family and friends had to reschedule their flights in for the shower, gifts being delivered were delayed, doctor appointments, along with beauty ones all cancelled. I was quite emotional to say the least. I was most worried about keeping the baby safe, as I have never been in the direct path of a category 4 storm, only a 2 and a 3. Those were bad enough! Needless to say, lots of tears were shed. 

Hubby, the dogs, & I decided to ride out the storm at my moms house who was also all shuttered up. I wanted to be around as much family as possible God forbid something happen. I ended up staying up all night as the winds were just way too loud for any rest. Its a hard noise to describe if you havent been through a storm of magnitude before. Its definitely no ordinary thunderstorm! We were able to maintain power all night (thank God!) and had no damage to our area when we went out in the morning to assess the damage. Nothing like the storms that hit us back in 2004 that left so much damage and power outages for weeks. 

The location of our baby shower also kept power and thus, the shower was still on! And what a beautiful day it turned out to be, thanks to my mom, aunt, and cousin and all their hard work setting up. The cake was to die for (so hard to cut such an adorable dessert into pieces!) and the flowers just as I imagined. The food was delicious too! Guests had a choice between 3 entrees, all which we sampled prior. We ended up just shy of 30 people and were so spoiled by all the gifts! We got everything we wanted, even more importantly that we needed. Carseat, stroller, bathtub, changing pad, MamaRoo swing, pack and play, rock and play, Bumbo seat, play mat, monitor, diaper bag, Ergo 360 carrier, clothes, diapers, bottles, blankets, toys, books…need I go on?!? Im still in awe of how generous everyone was to us. Seriously. 


We also had our 30 week growth scan at the MFM this week and Miracle is almost 3 1/2 pounds! So exciting to hear. If he continues to grow at this rate, they say he will likely be about 7 lbs at birth. Perfect! My cervix is long (over 3.75) and closed. I was really (happily) surprised by this…I figured it would have shortened some by now but it hasnt. Baby boy is currently butt down, but has time to move into proper position still. I head back to my OB next week for routine stuff, but not back to the MFM for another ultrasound until Im 34 weeks. 


I dreamed of the day where our pregnancy would enter in the “30” week range. It brings a sense of comfort to me although there are still obstacles ahead. So far, we have made all of our goals since we found out we were pregnant-

  1. Increasing betas
  2. Heartbeat on ultrasound
  3. Get past the furthest we ever made it in a previous pregnancy (10 wks)
  4. Get through the first trimester
  5. Feel the baby kick 
  6. Have a good anatomy scan at 20 wks
  7. Make it to first viability milestone at 24 wks
  8. Make it to second viability milestone at 28 wks 

Focusing on these things helps me stay positive. We are about to approach one of our last goals of viability, 32 weeks. I thank God everyday for this blessing. I also pray everyday for everyone still struggling, especially this month as pregnancy and infant loss awareness is remembered and honored. 

Last year on October 15th, we lit 7 candles for all the babies we lost over the years. This year on October 15th, we will light 8 candles, one added for Isaac’s twin that we lost with my tube back in May. Will have to post more then…in the meantime sending love to all. 

Diary of a Pregnant Woman, Vol. 4

We attended the Breastfeeding 101 class at the hospital this past week. I had already been to a prior boob class hosted by some local doulas, but that was with a friend and not with hubby. Hubby wanted to learn, and I figured the more info the better. And I did actually pick up on a few things that I hadnt in the doula session. Main points of the class-

  • Day 2 of breastfeeding is the hardest 
  • Various feeding positions (we practiced with dolls)
  • The 9 stages of the first hour after birth leading to feeding (the “golden” hour)
  • How much and how often baby feeds 
  • The role dad can play in the process (bring baby to mom, burp baby before and after, change baby before & after, make sure baby is latched right, positions, etc.) 
  • Bring pillows to the hospital so you are comfy breastfeeding 
  • When to introduce bottles
  • The benefits of breastfeeding 

And so much more! Im SURE this will be a learn as you go process, but hopefully we are well equipped with some strategies to help us should we run into any trouble. If not, the lactation specialists seem quite helpful too. 

News this week?

One of my best friends had her baby girl! She welcomed her into the world on 9/22 (first day of fall!) about a week past her due date. We visited them at the hospital and she is absolutely adorable! It was very surreal for hubby and I to go to the hospital to visit a baby. We have NEVER done this before. Its always been too hard. I was still nervous deep inside, but also so incredibly happy for them. I cant wait to raise our sweet babies together!! 

We are just over 27 weeks preggo now. I cant believe the 3rd trimester and our second viability goal of 28 weeks is upon us. Thank you, God! After this, it is 32 weeks. Getting there will be such a sigh of relief. Praying the time goes by without a hitch…our baby shower is in 2 weeks (all the RSVP’s are in & we will have just over 30 attending), and then our maternity photos. Also, our weekly labor & delivery classes begin & a few doctor appointments to see Miracle again.

I sent my RE some recent pics of me, hubby, & baby Isaac via Facebook. I hadnt talked to her since we were about 16 weeks and I missed her! We chatted back & forth, and I thanked her again for all she did for us over the past 3 years and 4 IVF cycles. She never gave up on us. After our boy is here we will surely be taking him in to see her! Oh, and I snuck in the question about our 1 & only frozen embryo left…what is the recommended time frame between delivering a baby and transferring an embryo? Answer-1 year. Hubby & I have some plans about it, but Ill save that for a much later post. Lets just get Miracle here safe & sound! 

Symptoms? 

Braxton Hicks. The other day they were very frequent and I got worried and thought about heading to L & D for a check. Thankfully, they subsided and I didnt need to go. Stay away BH!  

Baby boy & my uterus have def grown because Im feeling him and seeing him above my belly button now. So crazy, yet amazing at the same time. 

The Diary of a Pregnant Woman, Vol. 2

So this week has been full of appointments as usual. 

  • Appointment with OB-routine visit, checked urine, blood pressure, weight, Isaac’s heartbeat, and (new this visit) fundal height. She said my fundal height was measuring a little large for how many weeks I am. I didnt bother asking for a number. My mentality is Id rather it be larger than smaller. I got my glucola drink and scheduled that appointment. Praying I pass! 
  • We talked about baby’s movement at the appt. Ive been somewhat worried because I hear so much about all these women feeling strong movement pretty early on. Even though I felt flutters at 15 weeks and the intensity has definitely picked up, the movement is still quite sporadic. Like for instance, I might feel him in the early morning, but then not again until nighttime. So she told me that even though its early, try to count the kicks and I would probably be pleasantly surprised. I followed her instructions the past few days (drank something cold and sweet, waited 20 minutes, laid down) and realized he is doing just fine. I feel at least 10 movements pretty quickly actually. Thank God! I guess I just needed to focus in on it more to see. 
  • We interviewed a third (and final) pediatrician. 3 is enough, dont want to overwhelm ourselves with options. The places have consisted of 1.) a small, one doctor practice, 2.) a large, 6 doctor practice, and 3.) an in-between practice with 3 doctors. There are so many factors to consider when choosing a pedi (cleanliness, experience, on-site services, after hours, vaccines, wait times, hospital privileges, etc.) But honestly, for us, it really boiled down to a gut feeling. This is the same way we were with choosing our RE. We figure we can always change should we need to, but we are starting out at the smallest practice of the 3 practices. Glad thats taken care of!!

  • We attended session 1 of 2 at the hospital for “parenting & infant care.” Can I just tell you how awful session 1 was? It should be called “all the ways you can kill your baby.” I understand that it’s reality and important to point out all the things that can happen in order to be preventive, but it was really tough for me to sit through the class. From drowning, to SIDS, to choking, to shaking baby, to poisons, fires, my gosh. And we were showed videos of actual situations where children died. Was that necessary? Ugh. Anyways, session 2 is supposed to be much better (according to both one of my friends who took it and the instructor herself), we will have fake dolls and change baby, burp baby, swaddle baby, etc.

  • Tomorrow we go to the MFM for a 25 week growth scan. Praying all is on track. Will update soon on that. 

Aside from appointments, other news-

  • All shower invites went out and people are starting to RSVP! Exciting, but hard to believe it is here in just a month. We have already started to receive some gifts from out of state family (over half of our list is out of state), and for any big items they send, we are keeping the boxes and plan to take those to the shower wrapped without the items inside (hubby’s idea and I love it!). The smaller ones we get wont be an issue to take with the contents inside of them. This way even the people out of state who cant make it will be celebrating with us that day! 
  • I decorated for fall already. I love fall. I usually wait until it technically begins in a few weeks, but being home not working, I figured why not. Now if only the heat would go away. So over it. 
  • I have been thinking pretty seriously about cloth diapering. I joined a few Facebook groups and started my own research. I should have prefaced this by saying my stomach has been weaker than it normally is not pregnant. Anyways, in a few of the posts I came across, several ladies were having trouble with bugs. In the dirty diapers. Like maggots or eggs, or whatever. That was it for me. I told hubby about it and he pointed out how we live in South Florida and its a possibility. No thanks. As a new mom, I cant say how often I would be washing these diapers yet or blame them for it. Ive had all kinds of freaking bugs around my house & I keep it clean. So the plan is to start with disposables, I registered for a few different kinds, and go from there. Maybe one day. End of story. 
  • The closet in miracle’s room is pretty much done! I love it! 


Until next time!! 

Ready, Set, Go!

I might be kicking myself later for asking for advice on such debatable topics, but oh well. Nowadays, I cannot make a decision to save my life so here goes nothing…

  1. Experiences with cloth diapering? I have been reading up on it & I am very interested in trying this method out. It does not gross me out. I will be staying home with baby for quite some time (no daycare), and feel I could take the time to wash more than if I had to head back to work. In addition, being off work, I’d like to save financially if possible, and I also like the idea of chemical free materials (yes, I know there are disposables that are organic too). I have already purchased a few packs of disposable diapers-Swaddlers, Seventh Generation, and the Honest Company. As of now, I only registered for cloth diapers since I already have disposables. After reading reviews, I chose the Kanga Baby and Bum Genius cloth brands. The plan is to try various things out and see which works best for our little man, but it would be nice to hear some experiences from you all with this old school cloth method.
  2. I am having difficulty deciding how to handle our baby shower invites. Let me explain. I am the type of person who would rather be invited to an event and decline than not be invited at all. However, I am not sure if everyone is like this. I have been told that some people take offense when invited if you are not very close to them (like you are trying to get a gift, which would surely not be our intention at all). This is where my dilemma comes in. So many people that I work with have followed this blog and journey from the start. In some cases, I had never talked to these individuals on a personal basis until they showed interest in our story. One of the reasons I love this blog being public is because it has created many wonderful relationships for me that may have not existed otherwise. I am so thankful for the supportive community I have gotten to know. And I would like to invite many of these people, but I dont want them to find it odd if I do. On the other hand, I dont want them to be offended if I dont either. If that makes ANY sense. Soooo…which is better? Invite or not invite? My head hurts just from trying to explain that lol.
  3. I cant even remember #3 now šŸ™„
  4. I just remembered…birth plan or no birth plan? What about for a c-section? Please share why you feel the way you do! 

Still CookingĀ 

I feel like it has been forever since I updated, when in all reality it has only been a few weeks. Since there is so much to update on, I will do it in segments.

Pregnancy

Today we are 20 weeks pregnant! Officially halfway there. A day I honestly thought I would NEVER see. We are so grateful to say the least. 

Yesterday I had a scare. I was leaking some sort of fluid and after it continued for a full day, I broke down and called my OB. This was of course, after googling like a mad woman, and freaking myself out completely. I had convinced myself that I was leaking amniotic fluid and had ruptured. I was beyond petrified.  

My hopes were that the nurse would just tell me to come into the office to be checked out, not go to the hospital. Nope, not the case. They sent me to labor & delivery so I could have a test called the Amnisure done there. Basically, a q-tip is inserted vaginally for 1 minute and then it is tested for amniotic fluid. The results take anout an hour to come back.

So, my mom drove me to the hospital. They rushed me upstairs in a wheelchair to the labor floor. Keep in mind, I had changed my undies (sorry if TMI) 3 times already before noon due to the fluid. Upon arrival to the floor, they wheeled me into one of the delivery rooms and this is when I lost it. I looked around and saw the baby incubator, the baby board where mom and baby’s name go, etc. All these things that I did not want to see at just 20 weeks pregnant. My name was even on the board. I started crying out of fear. I was here way too soon. 

I got undressed into a gown and they started monitoring for contractions. No contractions. The nurse informed me that my OB would be coming to do the test herself. She arrived soon after, and talk was taking place about if I had ruptured. The steroids, the antiobiotics, the hospital admittance, the bedrest….the chances of baby making it. I could only pray at this point. My OB did the Amnisure swab test, tested my urine, and listened to baby boy on the doppler. She also checked my cervix and I was not dilated at all. Thank God. 

The hour wait seemed like a lot longer. Finally, my OB and the nurse came in right after I heard cheers from out in the hall. The test came back negative for amniotic fluid. I had not ruptured. Such a huge sigh of relief. It also came back negative for an infection of any kind. The fluid was either normal pregnancy discharge or pee. Yep, pee. And Im going with the latter, although it is quite embarassing, simply because I know how small my bladder is. A urologist diagnosed it years ago as 3x smaller than average. Looks like I will be investing in some Depends soon! 

After I was discharged and got home, I was so tired I pretty much collapsed and slept for hours. I hadnt slept much the night before because I was worried about the fluid and I was dealing with a barking dog. Amongst all the madness of the day, it was also our 9 year wedding anniversary. Hubby was on call and didnt get home until late, but we were able to spend some time together once he did. 

Today was our appointment at the MFM for our fetal echocardiogram where they take an in depth look at the heart, even more than at the anatomy scan. Again, I was worried something would be wrong. I feel like its almost their job to find something wrong at the high risk doc. But I was wrong. His heart looked perfect. The midwife who met with us after reassured me by saying, “we have seen it all here, we are looking very closely, and he looks normal in all areas, no concerns.” I thanked God out loud over and over. My cervix is also still measuring long, close to 4cm and my placenta previa is completely resolved. We honestly couldnt have asked for a better report. 


I will head back to my regular OB in 2 weeks to check my cervix length again. I will be 22 weeks then, and they will only do one more cervix check after that at 24 weeks. Its hard to believe we are so close to our goal of 24 weeks, or viability. Only 1 more month!! 

I am starting to feel miracle move more & more now. It is still sporadic, but I know it is him. The ultrasound tech today felt him kick and it was pretty cool. Hubby hasnt felt him move yet, Im hoping within the next few weeks. Overall, I am feeling well and I cant complain. All I want is for him to keep cooking as long as possible. 

Nursery 

The carpet is in, along with the crown molding and baseboards. Hubby has assembled the crib, bookshelf, and changing table.  Today my mom and I went shopping and she bought us a rocker/recliner for the nursery! It will be delivered in a few days. We are so incredibly thankful for what her & my stepdad have done for their future grandson already. 

We have not hung anything up yet on the walls, but we have been ordering items. Our desire is to keep it classy and simple. So far decor wise we have a mirror, a clock, a shelf, a growth chart, and a soft whale to hang. I am totally obsessed with Pottery Barn Baby and have pretty much gotten everything from there. I will post pics once it is all done but here is one of the adorable whale…


Baby Shower 

I am all done registering for our shower. This was so fun and something I dreamed of for so so long. I am hoping to get some of what we picked! My amazing cousins, aunt, & friend all pitched in and surprised us with an early shower gift already…a mamaRoo!!! I cant even tell you how excited we are…hubby put it together straight away so we could play with it. 


My mom and I also just ordered the shower invitations and menus. The invites will go out towards the end of month.  They are just so cute! We decided on the centerpieces, games, favors, etc. I wont say too much because I dont want to spoil it for those coming. Speaking of those coming, several of our out of state relatives plan to come it sounds like. I feel so honored and never expected this! 

I feel like there is more, but I have been going on for some time now. Sending love to all of you who took the time out of your busy day to read this…thank you! 

Care PackagesĀ 

I have grown to know such wonderful women through this blog. I think about all of you so frequently, wondering how you are doing regardless of where you are in this journey. I look forward to reading your posts everyday, even if I dont always comment on them. I anticipate our conversations and the advice, hope, and encouragement you all offer. 

Recently, I have realized that I do not have many of your addresses.  In fact, I only have 1 fellow bloggers address who I sent a baby bible to, she never got the package, and I never got it back either. I was so upset, but I learned my lesson, and from now on I will keep my receipt, get tracking of some sort or pay with my debit card instead of cash.  

I found much joy in getting her something special that it made me really start contemplating how wonderful it would be to surprise a fellow blogger with a care package from time to time, whether it be during a treatment cycle, suffering a loss, celebrating a new baby, enduring motherhood troubles, or simply just to brighten a day. I think several of you in this community blogging for some time have already been doing this, what a great idea. I love to give to others anytime I can, one of the reasons I love Christmas time so much I think.

Of course, I know some people like to keep their home address and/or name private, totally understandable. I am picky about who I give mine out to as well. If you are comfortable with it and dont mind receiving a little surprise from me one day, please email me your info (blogging name, real name, address) at angvfish@icloud.com

Looking forward to spreading some  sunshine!