Saying Good-bye Again

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The title may seem alarming, so let me assure you that we are not saying good-bye to another baby. Thank God. Instead, I am saying bye to my job once again. 

As many of you know, I am a teacher and sufferred through 3 IVF cycles, all to followed by miscarriages, while in the classroom. After the 3rd loss, I resigned for various reasons (mostly for my sanity), but long story short, I ended up only taking the summer off before heading back into the classroom yet again this past year. I must say I am so happy that my arm was twisted a bit and I got to put in one more year at my amazing “A” rated school.

When we got pregnant from this 4th IVF cycle back in April, I ended up having to take yet another medical leave in May due to it being a heterotopic pregnancy. Between the recovery from that surgery, and a large SCH that popped up, I never made it back to finish the year off with my students. 

As usual, the school that I had been at for the past 6 years was more than understanding. I had a wonderful team of adminstrators and teachers who took over and got done what needed to be to keep things going smoothly. For that, I am forever grateful.  

After my SCH cleared up, I found out I had complete placenta previa about a month ago. I was, once again, put on limited movement. It was then I realized that since we found out we were pregnant back in April I have pretty much been on bed rest and pelvic rest. 

The good news is that my previa is moving and it is already marginal, not complete anymore. However, both my OB and MFM doctor feel that being on rest has served us good throughout my pregnancy so far. Hubby and I have to agree. This is the farthest along we have ever gotten. 

Which brings us to the good-bye. Per doctors orders, my medical leave will be extended until baby comes in December. After that, I will continue my maternity leave as I originally planned until the end of the school year. This being said, I will be out for the whole year. 

Once again, I have received open arms from my principal and team mates about this situation. This really helps because I hate to disappoint those who count on me. Plus, lets face it, being home all the time allowing your mind to race isnt the easiest thing. And financially, well, I dont even need to go there, because most middle class folks understand the struggle here. But staying home, stress free, off my feet all day, is the BEST thing for a healthy full term baby and thats the priority right now. We simply cannot risk it. 

So that was the “big” secret I mentioned in my last post. It might not seem “big” to some, but I love my job and will miss it a lot. I guess we will see what Fall 2017 has to bring for me and my teaching career…

34 thoughts on “Saying Good-bye Again”

  1. I am taking off some indefinite time now that baby is here and – only a week in – I can say I am so grateful to be with him every day. After loss especially, every moment feels like magic. I can’t wait for you to experience this and, although you will love going back to work, having some time to concentrate on the health of your family. Xoxo

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  2. Hang in there!! I’ve been following your posts, I can’t believe everything you’ve gone through thus far!! I’m just so happy for you that your baby is doing great!! I can imagine how having to leave work can be hard, both mentally and financially.. but as you know, I’m sure it’s for the best! I hope you can keep yourself busy, so you’re not in your head worrying LOL. Do you crochet or knit? LOL I wish you the very best! And a more uneventful pregnancy! BIG HUGS

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  3. Glad you made the right decision to stay home and off your feet. Take care of you and baby boy. That’s your priority. Hope to see you soon.

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  4. I think you are doing the right thing! As you said, baby comes first and if this is what the doctors recommend, you have to do what is best for you! It must be a bit sad, but of all continues well you will return in 2017 as a mommy to a precious baby boy!!

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  6. Aw lovely this *is* a big thing, your job means so much to you! I 100% agree that you have to do the best by you and your baby. You’ve been through so much, if you can reduce risk then that’s important. Sounds like you worked for a wonderful school and have some wonderful colleagues. In the future you may decide to go back to teaching but for now you are having a baby and looking after him (and yourself) is #1 priority! Best wishes xxx

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  7. Good decision. A job can always wait. You will always have your degree and I am sure you will be in demand as soon as you decide to return. I would tell any of our teachers to do the same. Will see you in oct.

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  8. Good teachers are always in demand. While it’s scary to think what time off means for a career and your bank account, you know that the decision isn’t being made lightly. Hopefully this is just what you need to get you through the home stretch. Hope you continue to feel good as you reach each milestone!

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  9. Good for you doing what’s right for your family! I find in general we all get so wrapped up in our lives that we forget to take a step back and evaluate what really matters. I wish you the best taking this time off and with whatever you decide to do in the future!

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  10. You will never regret taking time off to take care of yourself and baby. Anything that makes this process easier and less stressful is definitely the right move. I’m a teacher so I understand the struggle of needing to put yourself/your health/baby first but not wanting to let your students and co-workers down.

    I gave birth in October and had to take some time off during the beginning of the school year due to modified bed rest and was totally stressed out. Looking back I should have just embraced it. We made the tough financial decision to have me stay home with bab for 6 months (3 of which were unpaid after I ran out of sick days) but it was the best decision we ever made.

    After all we have been through with IF/RPL, it is that much more precious to love on that new baby : ) Hope things keep progressing smoothly and sending lots of positive thoughts your way!

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  11. I’m going to miss you at school but I’m so happy that you are doing what is best for you and the baby! I think it’s a wonderful decision. You need to rest and be stress free! We are cheering you on every step of the way! xoxo

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  12. I am a teacher, too. I get the stress of missing work, and I always feel guilty about taking time off. The bottom line is thats our job, and our life and the life of your baby is so much more important. Glad you have a supportive school, that makes it so much easier to do what you need to do. Rest and try to enjoy the time. ❤

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    • So many of us teachers struggling with IF! Just not fair. It is quite stressful to miss work, so different than a “regular” job where u can just call in sick for the day and be done with it! I hope u have a supportive school too, it makes this a little bit easier.

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      • Yes I can’t help but wonder if the stress in our jobs plays a role…trying to remove as much stress from my life as possible but that’s been a battle I’ve been fighting since I started teaching.

        Yeah it’s much different than other jobs. So far my school has been very supportive. We just got a new administrator this year…Hopefully he is just as understanding.

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  14. This sounds like a really great move and one that will only serve you well. You’ll never regret doing this for you and your family – this is really the most important thing right now and it’s great that you don’t have any doubts about it. Hopefully you’ll get to enjoy this time preparing yourself for the arrival of your little one. Time to scope out some good series on Netflix, or as a poster suggested above, take up knitting or crocheting!! It would feel so lovely and productive to craft something for your baby during this time. Congratulations on taking this decision – I hope everything continues to run smoothly for you!!

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  15. These decisions are hard, but after everything you’ve been through, you’re right to prioritize your baby. When you’re ready, I’m sure the school will be happy to have you back! Until then, you can just enjoy this special time. Hugs

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  16. I know those are tough decisions to make but I think you’re right that it’s the best and safest one. I’m just happy that you have such a wonderful team being you at school that care so much for yours and baby’s well-being. 🙂 Unfortunately, that’s now always the case.

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