We meet tons of people throughout the span of our lives. Maybe you have heard the saying, “some people come into our lives and quickly go, others stay for awhile and leave footprints on our hearts and we are never ever the same.” I believe we can categorize these people into groups based on our relationships with them.
- People we never say more than 2 or 3 words to such as “hi and “how are you” in passing just to be polite (a co-worker in a large firm, a fellow jogger or person waiting in line with you).
- People we wish we would have never said more than 2 or 3 words to, unfortunately did, and now avoid them at all costs (acquaintances, ex-boyfriends, or friends turned bad).
- People we interact with for professional, need based reasons (hairdressers, postmen, bankers, doctors, realtors, etc.)
- People we deal with only on or at special occassions because we feel obligated to do so (fellow Christmas party goers and wedding party guests, great aunts and uncles we havent seen in 15 years, or any family member that we are distant from).
- People we enjoy spending our time with and vice versa (good friends & family).
- People who we cannot imagine not having in our lives for its entirety, who we would do anything for, and vice versa (soulmates).
*Note-these are all totally subjective generalizations; yes there are surely exceptions and overlaps depending on who you ask.
To most, a soulmate is looked at as 1 romantic, intimate life partner. I too, look at my husband as my 1 and only romantic soulmate. But is it possible to have a soulmate that has nothing to do with romance?
I would say so; I would say it all depends on your definition of a soulmate. To me, the defintion of a soulmate is what I described in category #6 above. For this reason, I also consider my mom to be my soulmate. I could even go as far as saying I consider my furbabies to be too. The past few weeks, I was really reminded that I am blessed to have friends in my life that are my soulmates as well.
A few weeks back, after our FET was cancelled and we got the bad MRI report, I was feeling pretty down. Literally, I was in bed crying, thinking about how weak I am, and how I wanted to give up, when my husband brought in an unexpected card from a cat 6 friend and handed it to me. It was exactly what I needed at exactly that moment.
A few days later, I sat and cried again, staring at the computer screen. I had just researched the cost of an average carrier in the U.S….$50,000, with the most expensive part being hiring someone you do not know to carry. We knew there was no way this could ever be afforded. Ever. And we were so frustrated that neither one of us have a sister to even consider asking for help. Neither one of us would ever as a friend, its just too much to expect of someone in our opinions. But having someone you know as the carrier significantly reduces the cost.
Next thing I know, my husband hands me more unexpected deliveries from another friend from category 6. Again, the timing was nothing short of a miracle from above.
If you have been following our infertility, IVF, and RPL battle you know that eventually we *may* be faced with pursuing our family through a gestational carrier. I said in my post yesterday that I had some uplifting, positive fertility news to tell. I am not going to go into detail about it, but I will share this much-one of my cat 6 friends, who has been following our story all along, who is one of my soulmates, has extended the offer of carrying our child for us should it come to it in the future. She said it would be an honor to do so.
There are really no words that can describe this incredible, selfless offer or the magnitude of our wonderful friendship.
For those of you who are struggling, who think everything seems impossible, and who are feeling that there is no hope left-my husband and I get it. We really do. In fact, just a day before this offer we said we might as well give up on our dream of our family. But I want to remind you that there is always hope my friends. Just when you are at your weakest and about to give up, God will remind you there is hope.