October is a month of remembrance for several things close to so many peoples hearts; most commonly, Breast Cancer. In addition, it is disability and domestic violence awareness month. Most of us RPL survivors know that October is also Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness month. On Facebook, a lot of people, including myself, have turned their profile pictures pink and blue with the hashtag #gopinkandblue.
I have wanted to do something to bring more awareness to pregnancy loss since I have become a victim, but I have never really known where to start other than just speaking out on social media outlets. In my heart, I want to do more for those hurting, but again, I find myself not sure where to begin.
I have prayed that if God wants me to do something, he will show me a sign. In fact, not too long ago, I went to a womans conference at a local church. At the end of the conference, they passed out a survey for each woman to fill out. Most of the questions centered around the conference, but there was one question that did not. This question asked if I would be interested in starting any type of outreach or ministry and if so, what for. I went back and forth about filling it out, but immediately, as soon as I read it, I knew maybe it was my chance to reach other women/couples in my shoes. This being said, I finally wrote down that I would be willing to start a pregnancy/baby loss group. I prayed that if it was meant to be for someone to please call me. No one ever did.
Maybe it isnt the right time. Maybe I am not in the mindset to be of help to anyone yet. Maybe I would not help them in a positive way. I dont really know. But, regardless, I am keeping my faith that one day I can help women in a way that only those who have felt the pain themselves understand.
Since I do not know what to do right now to reach out, I decided that I would write this post in honor of October being pregnancy and infant loss awareness month. I dont have many words, so I have found images to represent the love,pain and anguish I, and I am assuming so many others, feel each day. Please know you are not alone.
I will be lighting a candle on October 15, along with millions of others, for every baby we have lost. I invite you to light one too, whether you personally have lost a baby or not. Please remember that 1 in 4 experience this kind of loss, and many do not speak out about it.
Surviving INfertility 
Such a powerful post, thank you for writing this!! I want you to know you have made a difference in my life, it is so nice to know there is someone else who has experienced the same thing and feels the same way!!
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That means so much to me. Thank you so much for telling me ! 💗
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Just by being open about your journey, you are helping people. I had someone reach out to me on facebook the other day who said that she had been following my journey from the start and draws inspiration from knowing that despite all the struggles we faced, we still made it to the other side. Keep being open, someone will come to you letting you know how much you’ve helped them. I can tell you that you have been there for me more times than I can count. 🙂
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That is so cool, that you touched someone so much by sharing your journey. I too, get hope from seeing success stories like yours. I enjoy following your story, and I am so glad to hear that I have been of some help, that makes my day 😊
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I too want to bring awareness about pregnancy loss and try to help other people open up about it. I’ve been thinking about telling my family about the candle lighting event on Thursday, but I’m not sure I’ll be brave enough. They haven’t been as understanding as I’d have hoped up until now, not sure how they will take it… Thanks for sharing.
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Thats great that u want to bring awareness too! Im sorry your family hasnt been there fully when u need them the most. I have encountered some along the way who have been the same. But if its on your heart to tell them, I say just do it.
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I think it’s great that you want to help others and reach out. And I think you are doing that already by virtue of this blog and Instagram, etc. You can’t put a value on the support and kindness you have shown to others. Thank you for sharing your story with us all. I will be lighting three candles Thursday night and I’ll be thinking of you too.
And, I haven’t seen one person on FB with the pink and blue! Kind of disappointing.
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Thank you for seeing the best in me! I wish more people were aware of this month and what it means to us RPLers. Honestly, the only peoples FB page I have seen changed are ladies from here that I am friends with! Im so glad we will all be united in lighting Thursday. Ill be thinking of you too 💙
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Thank you for this. I blog also but, didn’t feel that I had the emotional strength to do so today. I will be sharing yours instead.
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You are so welcome. Thank you for stopping by, and for sharing. I am sorry for your loss(es) 💗
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Here’s one of my posts in case you’d like to see.
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