A child free life. A life free of children.
We know some people who have chosen this path; but we know more who haven’t.
Some chose it because of their infertility struggles, some chose it just because.
Both sides appear to have a satisfying life for the most part, yet both also seem to have their fair share of problems as all couples do.
Since our 3 IVF losses, my husband and I have been discussing the pros and cons to a child free life.
I think it is important to note that we don’t desire to have a child free life lifestyle. However, due to our circumstances, we realize this could eventually be the case, just from a financial standpoint alone.
Pros to Living a Child-Free Life
- More time (& money!) for just the two of us to spend together (no juggling act between hubby/wife time & kid time)
- We can pick up & go places that we want very easily now (This could be a vacation, the store, or even out to dinner without having to worry about going to a child centered destination, packing diaper bags full of stuff, or dealing with possible toddler meltdowns)
- We do not have to worry about our offspring for the rest of our lives in this insane world we live in (this is a HUGE umbrella for which their sickness, safety, behavior, intelligence, education, finances, relationships, & many more all fall under).
- More dogs to adopt!!!LOL
Cons to Living a Child-Free Life
- Not experiencing the full love of motherhood or fatherhood (we already know what it is like to love our children, but never got the entire experience)
- No “big” family feel, something both my husband & I always wanted to have
- No one to make you laugh at ridiculous things you normally wouldn’t laugh at (for real!)
- No grandchildren
- No one to watch grow up and to help grow up
- No one to be a role model for (I’m talking about everyday at home)
- Not having them to grow old with us
- We will always wonder what it would have been like to have them
I am sure there is PLENTY more that can go on each list. I am curious what my fellow TTC bloggers have thought about this “child free lifestyle.” Is it even something you have considered or would consider? Why or why not? To be honest, we never considered it at the start of our journey. And again, it’s not what our hearts want at all, but we have to at least prepare for the possibility.