The infertility closet that is. Now, before any backlash begins on why someone (us) would want to discuss such a private manner as this publicly, let’s go there.
Why is infertility a taboo subject to begin with? It is hard to put your finger on it, I know. My husband & I spent years trying to simultaneously hide it and yet figure out why we were hiding it. Why did we even care what people thought? Maybe it’s because getting and STAYING pregnant seemed so easy for everyone else? Maybe because that’s what us women were created to do isn’t it? (calm down, just a thought). Or perhaps simply because having 4 kids with a white picket fence was supposedly the American dream right? Who knows.
Regardless of why you hide it, you shouldn’t. Firsthand, I couldn’t be happier that we are finally out of the closet. Why? Well, for one there is no more pretending. Pretending is stressful. Just think, no more dodging the daunting question of “when are you two going to have kids?” or making up excuses on why you can’t attend yet another baby shower with a huge smile on your face (no this does not mean that we aren’t happy for you, it means we are a person with feelings too).
Infertility is a disease and like any other disease, it shouldn’t have to be hidden. So before judging a person for sharing, consider your moms saying, “if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all.”
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